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Octavio’s Homeschooling Program Year 5

Nota: Si alguien desea leer esta información en español, por favor, me dejan un comentario y lo traduciré a la brevedad.

Hello:

Today, we started the fifth year of Homeschooling.

There will be not important differences respect the past year in matter or curriculum, pretty much we will keep the same books. The new is that this year, I will ask Octavio to take more responsibility in the lessons; for example, from now on he will make most of the reading of instruction and content. I will be only helping him when a explanation of concept or instructios are necessary.

PROGRAM – FIFTH SCHOOL YEAR – GRAMMAR STAGE:

MORINING SESSIONS (5 days per week, weekend off):

-Reading: I keep reading at loud from Literature/ Bible and mixed subjects.
-Dictation: One page in cursive, usually it takes 15 minutes. I will keep copy the book Advice to the Young by Noah Webster.
-Octavio’s reading aloud: 15 minutes per day, about full three page of small print.
-Spelling: Continue with Spelling Power starting on Level F (about 10 minutes per day).
-Composition: Understanding Writing, starting on Level 4
-Memorization: Selection of pieces in English, Spanish and classic languages.
-Latin: Visual Latin: Starting on Lesson 18
-Greek: Elementary Greek Year 2, Starting in Lesson 23,
-Hebrew: The First Hebrew Primer ( This book now has booklet with answers and flash card, that make everything much easier)
-Arabic: Octavio will continue in the Arabic School, receiving 3 hours of Arabic per week.
-Pre-Logic/Mathematics: Mathematical Reasoning Level D, starting in page 144, two pages per day until finish the book, then move to the 4th Grade book.
-History: 30 minutes per day. Continue using Mystery of History Series.
-Science: We will continue using God’s Design for Science Series, complementing with Lab practices and and experiments in other areas.
-Art and Music: In Free Time

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Bye, for now

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48 Responses to “Octavio’s Homeschooling Program Year 5”

  1. Andrea Hazbun

    Hola Perla,
    primero quiero decirte qué bueno que ya has resuelto tu tema de salud. Supongo que tienes que hacerte checkups para monitorear que no te crezca de nuevo. ¿Te cansabas mucho ? ¿Cuáles eran tus síntomas?
    En cuanto a homeschool, te quiero preguntar en qué consiste el Arabic School. ¿Es por internet o es literalmente un school al que él asiste? ¿Y cuál es el método de enseñanza: inductivo o clásico?
    También te quiero comentar sobre la micropropagación. Nos encanta. Nosotros estamos trabajando con una planta chilena que se llama copihue y es originaria del sur. Por lo que leímos en el siglo XIX ya se la llevaron a Inglaterra para micropropagarla (con los métodos de la época, pero ya existía el concepto). Esta planta es de crecimiento lento, puede tardar más de 12 años en llegar a una altura inicial, no sé cuál es el tope. Asi que está ideal para micropropagarla. Estoy haciendo que Iñaki lleve un registro de esta actividad en notebooking pages, que es simplemente anotar con fecha lo que vamos haciendo e ir fotografiando a diario los jars. ¿Tienes alguna recomendación que darme?
    Otra cosa que te quería preguntar, los frasquitos que se guardan en el refrigerador, una vez abiertos y bien cerrados, pueden volverse a guardar ahí sin peligro de contaminación para el resto de la comida ¿verdad? Porque leí el prospecto y parecen bastante inocentes. Aunque en una ocasión un poco me cayó en la mano, muy poco, y traspasó el guante desechable y te digo que me ardió bastante. Pero fue solo eso, ardor, no hubo herida.
    Bueno, saludos y felicitaciones.


  2. Hola Andrea:

    Los síntomas de fibroid son principalmente periodos abundantes y prolongados que llevan a anemia severa, también los fibroid (miomas) hacen presión en otros órganos, como la vejiga que hace que haya que ir frecuentemente al baño. Si los fibroid degeneran pueden producir dolor. Por supuesto, está el efecto estético, como yo soy delgada se me notaba un poco. Los síntomas de la anemia son mucho, a mi especialmente me afectaban la piel (sequedad, fragilidad de las uñas y el pelo). Nunca estuve decaída, pero si me sentía cansada y termine en año escolar pasado haciendo un gran esfuerzo.

    Octavio recibe las clases en una escuela de Árabe privada, los llevo dos veces por semana. En la clase tiene otra compañerita, a veces hay más niños. La profesora es Árabe. El Método es inductivo, está enfocado en hablar y comunicación, más que en gramática. La profesora los pone a jugar, también los llevan a lugares (librería, supermercado, Mezquita, etc) para practicar las lecciones aprendidas. Para los adultos el método de enseñanza es diferente. Este centro uso los libros recomendados por el Ministerio de Educación Árabe y ellos tiene acceso a certificar el conocimiento de árabe ( test oficiales del idioma), pero el centro es si es privado.

    La micropropagacion es muy entretenida. Franco subió a YouTube un video bonito donde estaba micropropagando una piña. Creo que llevar los registros con fotos es la mejor opción como tu ya estás haciendo. Las sustancias no contaminan la comida en el refrigerador, pero como ya sabes, hay que manejarlas con cuidado. Por supuesto, para efectos de elaborar el medio, es mejor usar hoyas y cucharones viejos solo dedicadas a eso. Yo guardo las sustancias en un contenedor cerrado bien rotulado, en la casa solo somos los tres y nadie más abre el refrigerador, pero es mejor prevenir y marcar bien de que eso no hay que tocarlo.

    Bye, bye

  3. Andrea Hazbun

    Perla, yo estoy usando Building Thinking Skills y estuve viendo sus productos de matemáticas. No sé si estás familiarizada con MEP (http://www.cimt.plymouth.ac.uk/projects/mep/default.htm), que es un programa gratis online para descargar. Si no lo conoces, ¿le podrías dar una mirada a la página web y decirme si notas diferencia con el de CTS? Estoy en el momento en que ya vamos a empezar a hacer los workbooks de MEP o los otros y estoy en la duda.
    Gracias.


  4. Hola Andrea:

    Vi unas páginas del libro gratuito del tercer grado.
    Mi opinión general respecto a currículos es que cualquier material sirve. Se pueda aprender matemáticas (o cualquier otra cosa) con una simple lista de temas. Los libros de trabajo son una ayuda, no una necesidad.

    Los libros de Critical Thinking son a color, en papel de buena calidad, muy atractivos. Uno recibe lo que paga, uno nunca recibe más de lo que paga. Como Critical Thinking es una compañía seria y con prestigio, con muchos años produciendo materiales, me dan la confianza que no necesito andar buscando en otro lado para confirmar que cumplen mis objetivos.

    La decisión de usar un material u otro, hay que basarla en la confianza que se le da producto, el presupuesto con que se cuanta, y la cantidad de esfuerzo personal para complementar. A mí, Critical Thinking me da confianza y mínimo esfuerzo personal, pero implican costos ($40.00 mas envió). Otros materiales te puede dar el mismo resultado a menos costo pero con mayor esfuerzo personal y menor confianza.

    Los productos de MEP no los conozco, tendría que estudiarlos un año o mas para tenerles confianza, no son coloridos ni tan atractivos en mi opinión, eso implicaría mas esfuerzo de mi parte para usarlos, pero claro, tiene la gran ventaja que son gratis. Cada familia debe manejar su propia combinación de variables… Muchos caminos llevan a Roma :) Si el presupetso fuera una limitante, les daria una prueba, a esos y a cualquier otro material gratuito equivalente.


  5. Perla, ¿tus cursos escolares son de 180 días?

    ¿por qué has adelgazado tanto con la eliminación del fibroma? ¡Hay una gran diferencia entre la foto de la graduación de Octavio y aquella en que estás con tu suegra!

    Jaime tiene un problema de oído. Le tienen que dormir del todo e insertar unos tubitos para que poco a poco salga el aire que hay detrás del tímpano y que hace que éste se encuentre en una posición rara y le provoque falta de audición. Tb le van a quitar los adenoides, pues parece q eso tb contribuye a su problema. no me hace nada de gracia lo de la antestesia total para jaime, pero por lo visto es una operación muy corriente.


  6. Hola Carolina:

    Sí, yo trato de hacer 180 días de escuela en el año.

    Creo que más que baja de peso es baja de volumen. El fibrodhacia que el estomago se me mirara como un embarazo de cinco meses. Por otro lado, el fibroid estaba haciendo presión en los intestinos y eso afecta la digestión y por ende hace aumentar de peso. Al irse el fibroid, inmediatamente la cintura vuelve a la normalidad y la digestión y los otros procesos son más eficientes.

    A Octavio ya le ha tocado estar en anestesia, una vez se quebró el brazo y toco dormirlo para poder hacer la alineación. La anestesia es muy segura hoy en día, Jaime ni se va a acordar, pero igual es cosa de nervios. Las madres como sufrimos!


  7. Hola Perla. Me gustaría que tanto tú, como todos los que escriben, analicen a http://www.ludotemas.com como herramienta para el aprendizaje de sus hijos. Son Juegos Interactivos Online para el Aprendizaje con la característica que uno arma su propio catálogo de Juegos. Esto significa que si, por ejemplo, quieres que tu hijo aprenda los países y capitales del mundo tenga un Ludotemas para eso. Incluso, este ejemplo está entre las Demos del sitio. ¿El precio? Un promedio de 8 dolares el año por el derecho de uso de cada Ludotemas. Me encantaría que lo analicen y me den su opinión. Mi correo electrónico privado es cristian.sosa@gmail.com. Muchas gracias y espero que les sirva.


  8. Al pobre Jaime tb le tienen q quitar 3 dientes de leche q no se le acaban de caer y q están impidiendo q se coloquen bien los ya definitivos, que están asomando detrás.

    Perla: si debido a circunstancias X, un día escolar no te da tiempo a terminar todo lo planeado para el idem, lo cuentas como medio día, o ¿qué haces?
    El estado de NY nos exige 180 días de clase. El curso pasado yo conté varios días como 1/2, 2/3 y cosas así, y luego iba sumando. ¿Tú cómo lo haces?


  9. Cristian:

    Gracias por el link. Octavio no es mucho de jugar en la computadora. A él si gustan ver videos educativos como thehappyscientist.com y otros del estilo, quizás otras chicas que visiten el blog revisan el link y dejan u opinión.


  10. Carolina:

    A Octavio le tuvieron que sacar un diente extra que estaba impidiendo que saliera el permanente. De hecho, tiene otro extra que se lo sacaran en el momento oportuno, el Dr. está esperando que baje más, de manera que sea más como una extracción simple y no como cirugía. Cuando le sacaron el anterior, solo se tardo 5 minutos. Seguro que a Jaime no le dolerá nada la extracción, quías ni necesite anestesia, Los dentistas saben sus trucos con los niños.

    Respecto a las clases, llevo un registro diario de las lecciones, si por alguna razón alguna clase no la pudimos cubrir, ese renglón lo lleno al día siguiente, ya sea haciendo clase doble o compensando la clase en el fin de semana. Cuando se que un día en la semana lo voy a perder, desde antes empiezo a duplicar clases de manera que el fin de semana quede libre. Algunas veces, hay días muy buenos donde Octavio está muy colaborado, allí aprovecho para adelantar alguna lección. Cuando se puede adelantar, hay que adelantar.

    Por cierto, como funciona el sietam en NY? Como evaluan que en verdad una familia cumplio los 180 dias? Tambien supervisan que temas curbrir por asignatura?


  11. En ny se fian de que tu les digas q se cubrieron esos dias. y mas o menos supervisan los temas, porque o te piden el temario o los indices de los libros, o mas o menos tienen una idea.
    a partir de 4 grado hay que hacer un examen al final de curso, en años alternativos.
    y luego, para high school no tengo ni idea. me falta mucho, así que quizá cambien las normas.
    y ¿que pasa con Octavio? ¿Tiene que rendir cuentas academicamente en algun sitio? ¿Cómo son las normas para homeschooling en arabia saudita? ¿El tiene la nacionalidad de EEUU, no?


  12. Hola Carolina:

    Por el momento no tengo reglas para el Homeschooling. Como el estado de Todd es Washington, voy a tratar de seguir las reglas de allá en caso que en un futuro nos toque vivir por esos lados. Según WA, hay que llevara records a partir del 4to grado, eso es fácil. Arabia Saudita no se mete en nada con los extranjeros que viven aquí, ellos solo velan por los saudís.


  13. NY es uno de los peores estados para hacer homeschooling. se meten en todo, pero no permiten q los niños no escolarizados participen en los equipos deportivos de los colegios, cosa q sí sucede en otros estados.

  14. Rhonda England

    Perla,
    Can you give me a little review about God’s Design for Science. How does it compare to Apologia Exploring Creation Elementary Series. I’m thinking of using God’s Design with my oldest this year because he is interested in Physics and Chemistry and Jeannie won’t have those books published until next year. I’ve loved over the AIG series when we went to the Creation Museum this spring, but it was so crowded in the bookstore that I couldn’t take my time. It didn’t look as apealing as Apologia or as indepth. I guess that is my concern. Is it pretty indepth? As you know Jeannie’s books are pretty indepth. God’s Design just looks like a book of experiments with little explanation, but I could be wrong in my assessment hence needing an opinion from someone who has/is using it. Thanks!


  15. Hello Rhonda:

    Perhaps the authors will not agree with me, but, in my experience, those books are for different categories of ages. Both authors did a great job and I will recommend both set of books to any one starting homeschooling with young children. The God’s Design for Science is for the youngest, perhaps from preschool to around 9 years old. Exploring Creation is for older children, perhaps older than 10 or 12, children that are in the logic stage and that have more time to spend in experiments, reports, etc.

    One way to see it, it is comparing the amount of materials: Animals it is covered in God’s Design for Science in a 140 pages books (soft cover, medium size print), Animals is covered in Exploring Creation in 3 volumes, hard cover, full size pages, with more than 250 pages each. Each lesson in God’s Design for Life ended with 3 or 4 easy question, and sometimes, an extra lecture in the topic (one page). Exploring Creation have a whole list of activities, long questionnaires, investigations, writing reports, etc.

    I tried with Exploring Creation, and when it came the time to make the activities, they were too much for Octavio. With enough time for science, I think, a young child will be able to follow the curriculum as is, but who can spend 3 hours per day in sciences the whole school year? An older child, who is not learning basic skills (reading, writing, composition) can follow the Exploring Creation by himself and extract all the benefits of the curriculum. In the other size, an older children will be able to read and learn the whole text of God’s Design in a couple of days; it will be too little for him, it will not challenge him.

    How old is your older child?

  16. Rhonda England

    Perla,
    Alex is 11, technically in 6th grade. We never do all the activities in the Exploring Creation books. I usually just chose 1 to do and we usually did not do the notebooking pages except for 1 or 2 lessons for me to keep for their portfolio. Thank you for the review of God’s Design. I am a little surprised about the age recommendation. I thought it went up to 8th grade. I think I will probably just wait until Jeannie publishes the physics and chemistry book. Alex really wants to do physics. This year I will do the Anatomy book. Alex has the notebooking journal and he will complete that, but I think I will just read and do 1 experiment per lesson with the younger kids. I may also focus more on nature study for my 3 younger kids who are 6, 8 and 9. I may try to fit in the physics and chemistry book during next summer before I start Alex in Apologia General Science for 7th grade. I know there Real Science for Kids has a physics book that we tried a few years ago and didn’t like, maybe I”ll check into that again.


  17. Perla, esos daily plans son exactamente lo q parecen? un plan detallado de cada asignatura para cada uno de los 180 dias? de donde sacas tiempo para hacer eso?


  18. Otra pregunta: por que vas a usar ese libro para ciencias, en vez de los de Exploring Creation?


  19. Hola Carolina:

    Los Daily Plans son hojas que diseñe en Excel, allí está la lista de asignaturas ( Latín, Griego, lectura, memorización. etc) con una línea en blanco a la par para escribir lo que cubrimos ese día. Por ejemplo, en Ciencias escribo el título del libro y el número de páginas que se leyeron. Si es en Memorización, el nombre del poema que estamos trabajando; si es en Historia, el número de lección. Es algo muy simple, pero me sirve de referencia para saber en qué parte de los materiales vamos y cuanto vamos avanzando en contenidos. En el siguiente link hay un ejemplo de cómo lucen.
    http://theclassicalmommy.com/blog/?p=122

    Pasando a ciencias:

    Los Exploring Creation son muy buenos, pero a la vez tiene mucho contenido, muy profundo para la edad de Octavio. Los cuestionarios son largos, y los experimentos complejos que requieren tiempo. En cambio estos, son más simples, tiene experimentos que Octavio hace por sí mismo, de hecho, el lee a diario cada lección y contesta las preguntas verbalmente. Son adecuados para su edad. Después, cuando Octavio este mas grande, podemos regresar a los Exploring Creation para formalizar.

    Si una persona necesita comprar solo un currículo de ciencias, Exploring Creation es una mejor opción porque cubre más, aunque la madre tiene que resumir con los pequeños. Pero si una persona quiere adelantar en ciencias en los primeros años, los God’s Desing son más adecuados, te dan una buena introducción sin ser libros infantiles o de como esas enciclopedias que solo son ilustraciones.

    Se supone que si uno sigue las guías de TTT, antes de los 10 años, ciencias (y matemáticas) tendría que ser informales, casi que aprendiendo de observación o por lecturas de los padres, de esa manera hay más tiempo para lenguaje. Una manera de incluir ciencias en forma ordenada pero sin la formalidad de un currículo como Exploring Creation, es usar algo simple como los God’s Desing.


  20. Ahora entiendo lo del daily plan. yo pensé que los escribías ANTES de hacerlos, y eso es lo que me pareció más complicado.


  21. ¿Haces historia y ciencias todos los días? ¿Cuánto tiempo en total tardas en todo lo que has puesto en la lista? ¿Haces todo por la mañana o dejas cosas para después de comer?


  22. Hola Carolina:

    Si, hacemos historia y ciencias todos los días. En ciencias, Octavio lee una lección de God’s Desing ( estamos por terminar el libro de Animales) y la discutimos, eso nos lleva unos 20 minutos. En Historia yo leo una lección de Mystery of History (3 días a la semana), los otros dos días hacemos el Quiz y el Test correspondiente a las tres lecciones, eso nos lleva unos 10 minutos diarios.

    En promedio, tardamos 3 horas y media. Lo hacemos todo junto en la mañana. Algunas veces, cuando le toca escribir una carta, dejo esa actividad para la tarde y así el se puede tomar su tiempo. Así mismo, si hay un experimento, lo hacemos en otro horario o en fin de semana.


  23. tus 2 horas de lectura estan incluidas en esas 3 h. y media de clases? que hace octavio mientras lees? se entera bien?
    Yo no puedo leer 2 horas diarias ni de risa. Imposible. Intento leerles mientras comen o meriendan. Durante el desayuno les leo la biblia de adultos en castellano.


  24. Hola Carolina:

    Mi lectura no está incluida totalmente en ese tiempo ( Aprox una hora si esta incluida). Cuando leo, Octavio puede estar completando algo de matemáticas,copiado o algun workbook de idiomas ( eso en cojunto lleva en promedio una hora). El resto del tiempo, leo mientras él juega.

    Cuando se trata de literatura, no sé si Octavio se entera de lo que leo, el no hace preguntas, pero a veces recuerda cosas de los libros. A él lo que le interesa es si leo de animales o libros de ciencias, allí si pone atención y recuerda todo, hace comentarios. También le gustan los libros de cosas prácticas.

    Este año escolar no he leído mucho (casi nada) aun me siento cansada por lo de la operación. Ahora, a Octavio le toca leer casi todo (desde las instrucciones de los libros), así que él tiene una buena porción de lectura diaria: información, narración, instrucciones.

    Bye, bye

  25. Beatrice

    Dear Perla,
    I have been following your blog for some time and you are a great inspiration to me and a great
    resource.
    Can you, please, tell me what book did you use to teach cursive writing at the very beginning?
    Also, what is the best children encyclopedia for a 3 years old?
    How do you organize Octavio’s day?
    How do you find time for your hobbies?
    This is my first year of homeschooling…

    Thank you so much!


  26. Beatrice:

    Thank you for your comment, next the answers:

    About Cursive,

    I used Zoner Bloser 2C, I skipped the print review.
    I wrote about it in http://theclassicalmommy.com/blog/?p=280

    About Encyclopedias:

    I cannot recommend an encyclopedia in particular. I myself, do not own one. When I am ready to buy a book, usually I will go for primary resources. Of course, there are nice “children encyclopedia” kind of books, they are full of nice pictures and little bits of information. I buy all what the budget can effort. When my son was 3 years old his favorite books where about animals, especially fish. As he grows, his interest has changed. My suggestion is to take your little one to the bookstore and let him choose. Each year the editorials come with nicer, better quality images, internet bonus, etc.
    If in the book are things which I do not agree (evolution, historic revisionism or propaganda), I am careful to point it out to my son.

    Daily Organization:

    I do not organize my son’s day. I give him lessons in the morning (it take us about 3 hours, some days less, some days more). Then he take his lunch and pretty must he is free to do whatever he want, that goes from play logos or any other toy, play outside, watch a videos, use his computer, read, paint, etc. Recently I hire a piano teacher that come to home one hour per week, but that is.

    Personal Hobbies:

    The homeschooling take average 3 hours per day. After the lessons, I spend some times preparing the meals, and making other house’s chores. When I finish with the house chores, I read, answer emails, search in the internet (I like find new recipes), make cookies (this is my hobby). Sometimes, on Thursdays, if my husband is in home, Octavio stay here and I can go to the beauty salon and make some shopping. Usually, on Friday, we go to the supermarket and we dinner outside.

    The first year of homeschooling is about learn and try new things. As the times goes by, you will win experience, you will know what works and what do not works, your child will mature and each day he will become more independent in his/her learning. You will relax and have time for many things. Octavio, my son, make his math, spelling and copy work while I am drying my hair, he reads about science and other topics while I am putting on my makeup :)

    Remember to teach your child discipline and obedience to the first time. That will make everything easier for you and him/her, now, in the homeschooling years and later in his/her adult life.

    Bye for now

  27. Beatrice

    Perla,
    Thank you so much for your detailed reply. When Octavio was 3 years old, did he have a lot of social activities with other kids?
    I am trying to see how much socializing my son needs now when he is 3 and how to balance everything in his schedule…
    Also, i noticed that you have a daily homeschooling plans. Do you write them in detail for every day or just in general for the whole year?
    Thank you again very much!
    Beatrice


  28. Hello Beatrice:

    Octavio did not have a lot of social activities with other children, not when he was 3, not now. I myself, and my husband, do not have a lot of social activities with other people of our age. Even so, we are considered very social people. Social interaction is something related to circumstances, it’s happen. We (my husband and I) do not force our self into have certain amount of hours per week of social activities with other people just because. In the same manner, we do not artificially program hours of social interaction for our son.

    Since, we are Christians, we considered that the Bible’s model for friendship and relation is superior to the secular approach. In our philosophy, the relations need to have a purpose; they must be for mutual edification. Enjoyment is the fruit of a healthy relation, it is not the purpose.

    Octavio, my son has many friends; he is always ready to play with anyone without discrimination of age. Some of my husband’s friends are also my son’s friends. We do not choose friends by age.
    If you want to know more about my personal approach to socialization, I refer the book the The Socialization Trap

    About the Daily Homeschooling Plan, it is actually is a record of what we cover each day per subject. I wrote it after we finish each lesson.

    Bye for now

  29. Beatrice

    Thank you so much, Perla!
    Intuitively I felt exactly the same about social life as you say but I just felt pressure because all other mothers emphasized it so much. Thank you for the book reference. Once again, you are a great resource! Thank you for sharing!


  30. Beatrice, in the first year of homeschooling, the hardest thing is trying to give answers to the friends and reltives’ no requested comments.

  31. Beatrice

    Yes, this is so true, Perla. I guess in my case it also has to do with not knowing myself well and not trusting my intuition when needed. But I hope to improve:)
    I have one more question on my mind: Do you have a nanny for Octavio? I have someone part time for my son but I am not sure it is right since he gets a lot of influence which is not exactly what I want to see. Sorry if I ask silly questions…


  32. Hello Beatrice:

    No, I do not have a nanny, and I hope never to need one. I only trust Octavio to my mother, mother in law and sister in law. Of course, there are situation where help is necessary, as when there are not relatives around, the mother is injury in the hospital, the father is taking care of the mother and the little ones need an adult that take care of the basic necessities. Also, in some case, both parent needs to work outside the house to make it to the end of the month with the bills, but rather than those extreme situations, I do not understand why a woman want to leave her children with other person. I respect other people style of life, but I will have not peace not knowing what is going on with my child. I just cannot imagine.

    Can I ask, what do you do while yor child is with the nanny?

    Bye for now

  33. Beatrice

    Hi Perla,
    Thank you again for your reply. My husband is at work from 9 am till 10:30 pm. He has his own acupuncture practice and it requires a lot of time from him. We have no relatives living near by. I was about to go into math Phd when I got pregnant so my life changed a lot after I had my son and decided to stay home with him. It took me a while to accept my situation because of my own ego. I guess emotionally I was tired and hired a part time nanny to do something for myself- I started to take Chinese lessons and I also began to write. But somehow my heart is not at peace and my progress with Chinese and writing are not so great either. I waste a lot of time, while my child is with someone else for whom he is just a job. At the same time I spent a lot of time for cleaning, cooking and laundry. So, overall I feel that I have my resources misplaced. Simple practical suggestions or comments help me a lot to figure this out. I have a lot of freedom and flexibility and support from my husband and I just need to put all the pieces together. It might be trivial for other stay home moms but I really need some insight :)


  34. Hello Beatrice:

    Be trivial is the aptitude about the things we do, has nothing to do with the place of work. Nobody needs to be a trivial housewife, some are, but some other women take the job to a very high level. It Is your decision to be a trivial housewife, or to make your house and dishes worthy of appear in Better Home and Gardens.

    Manage a house, even a small house; take many work, planning and intelligence. Places as Pinterest.com give inspiration and ideas about what other ladies are doing.

    About to have a nanny so you can continue studding and have time for yourself, nobody can really tell you, it depend of your priorities in life. Is to learn Chinese more important that spend time with your child? The benefits of you learning that language compensate the risks of your child in other people hands? Since your husband gives you that freedom to decided, only you can tell.

    In my case, so far, I did not find anything that I cannot do from home or together with my son (to learn Chinese together with your child can be a very nice experience). In the other side, there is always time in the future to get a PhD, but your child will be little just now. They grow fast.

    Make your list of priorities, and take your decision in base of that. There are opinions in different directions, resist the temptation to follow opinions, it is better follow your priorities.

    Bye for now

  35. Beatrice

    Perla,
    Thank you so much again for your reply. I think I did not explain myself clearly when I said that it is trivial for other stay home moms. I meant that it is easy for them to educate their child and manage their household nicely but for me even small things like discipline, house chores and whether or not to have a nanny are big issues:) so I am looking for insight from other moms.
    I feel blessed that I have this opportunity to be with my son and bring him up in the best possible way because I feel that the potential is limitless. I made mistakes in the beginning because I was enfluenced by other people too much ( even my priest said to me that I had to have a nanny and go to work and that it was not normal to stay home like that). Anyway, my son will be 3 in February and at this point I am trying to get rid of anything that has not come from my heart. I absolutely agree with you about nannies and I guess I just needed to hear it from someone with more experience and great results in homeschooling to confirm it. I enjoy reading your replies because you can see things through. Thank you again- you helped me clear a lot of confusion within myself!


  36. Hello Beatrice:

    Thank you for the explanation. My mother language is Spanish and sometimes the differences in Grammar between the languages trick me.

    Yes, I agree with you that there are some exceptional women that manage the house with easy, but for most of us, it requires study and hard work. Some women even go in write books about this art.

    Beatrice, do you know the book Teaching The Trivium? You can read many articles from the book in the author’s website; I recommend you read Ten Things to do before Age 10 http://www.triviumpursuit.com/articles/ten_to_do_before_ten.php and all the beginner section http://www.triviumpursuit.com/articles/

    All of us make many mistakes in the beginning. The problem are not the mistakes, the problem is recognize the mistake and do nothing about it. If you keep going and learning everything will be fine. Homeschooling benefits more the parents than for the children :)

    Ps: Your priest is not well informed. In a 2005 study, the U.S. Census Bureau reported an estimated 5.6 million stay-at-home moms. That is a 22% increase from 1994.

    Women working outside the house are a new thing. In 6000 thousand years of history, only in the last few centuries we see women going out to work and let the children in institutions.

    In those days of economic crisis, is the blessing that your husband can provide enough so you can stay in home, it is almost like a luxury.

  37. Beatrice

    Hi Perla,
    You said it wonderfully about homeschooling benefiting parents more than children. I can definitely feel it!
    Yes, I know the website you mention. I read the free articles they have and the beginner chapters. I do not have the book though.
    Do you think it is a must to have? from your experience…
    Also, recently I started to feel that going to the city playgrounds ( we live in NYC) might not be a good idea, especially when it is crowded. There are many kids with all kinds of backgrounds and upbringings and sometimes I see that my child feels los
    t and I see contradictions to my own philosophy of discipline and social behavior. Did you take Octavio to public playgrounds?
    Thank you for being generous with your replies!
    All the best!


  38. Hello Beatrice:
    I do not think you must to have any particular book, except the Bible. But, it is wise to have a good library to take ideas and experience, from that point of view ,Teaching The Trivium is a valuable resource.
    In Saudi Arabia, the weather is hot most of the year, so there is not room for many outdoor activities. Sometimes, we go to indoor amusement parks and when the weather allows we go to some outdoor public toys. Also, when we are in vacation, if there are parks near, we visit it, but it is not something we do in a regular bases.

    Octavio, as any other child enjoys playing with other kids. But when a child become aggressive or do not want to share a toy, Octavio knows that the wise thing to do is let that child alone and play with others. As long you are couching your child while interact with other, I do not see a problem playing in public areas. I will never leave Octavio without a close supervision while playing with other kids, not even if other parents are near ( close means a couple of meters away, eye contact all the time).

    As you say, each child has different background, and each family has different philosophies about what is proper behavior. If I see bad behavior in other kid, I point it out to Octavio and we move to another place. I never correct other kid’s behavior.

    Bye for now

  39. Beatrice

    Thank you very much, Perla. What is your opinion on “The well-trained mind” book?
    I envy you that you have a gorgeous hot weather all year round:)


  40. Hello Beatrice:

    TWTM is a secular book about Classical Education. I have it, I have read it, but I do not use any of its ideas. I consider that Teaching The Trivium has a superior approach to Homeschooling in a classical style.

    There is nothing writing in stone about how to homeschooling. There are many approaches, many styles, many programs, curriculums, etc. I think it is wise to investigate all of them and then choose what better apply to our personal situation. TWTM does not apply to my system of believers and objectives, but there are families happy with it.

    Bye for now

  41. Beatrice

    Thank you! I had no idea it was a secular book…


  42. Hello Beatrice:

    Yes, it is a secular book, they advice that each family should have their own time for religion based in their own believes. The book point out which curriculums are religious, so the parents can decide to use them or use the alternatives they listed.

    In general it is a good book, many Christian like it. Personally I do not use it.

  43. Beatrice

    Thank you very much!


  44. Hello, Perla, it was so good to read the previous comments! I have a question.

    We have a meeting once a year with other pastor-families, and we spend two days together. Parents talk, children play. There is no strict program. My daughter usually wants to be with the other girls *who attend school) and they always mocking on my daughter for something, like: my daughter does not have a cell phone because she does not need it, but the other girls have very expensive ones. The whoel day looks like this: staying in a room and playing on cell phones. My daughter made her own cell phone of cardstock :) because she likes to play with it, but of course they mocked on her. I told her not to talk to those girls, but most of the girls were in the same room doing the same thing :(

    There was another situation: in our church there are many young mothers who organize bible/clubs for children. My children go only twice a year to the one-week program (in the mornings) because they see that everybody is there. But again the other girls are mocking at my daughter and saying very ugly things about her :(

    What do you advise?


  45. My actual question is: Does she need to train herself in situations when she has to defend herself? Or it is better just to avoid such situations? Perhaps you know what society says: she needs to defend herself.


  46. Hello Eszter:

    As a general rule, I will keep my son (and myself) far from any bad influence. I do not allow him to relate to children that does not have good manners and even worse, cruel children. I do not have myself bad mannered friends or cruel friends. There are social situation where we must to be with such kind of people (public places, jobs situations) but there is always the option to avoid them in a polite manner.

    In the particular case you mentioned, there is a big problem of cruelty. It looks like those girls are saying such thing with the intention to hurt your daughter. I am pretty sure, Johanna does not need that. Nobody needs that.

    If you must attend such meeting, perhaps it is better Johanna stay with you. If you have a close relation with the mothers of those girls, you can tell them about it in a relax manner, depend of their reaction (apologize for their daughters, or do not show any care to the problem) you can evaluate if it is a good use of your time attend those meetings.

    Bye for now


  47. Eszter:

    How do you will react in a situation where somebody tells you ”Eszter, you do not need a Chanel dress because you do not attend luxury restaurants?” It does not matter if the fact is true or false, it is a matter of cruelty.

    To avoid cruel people is a wise way to learn to survive. To learn to choose friends is a wise way to learn how to survive. What are the other option? Fight with them? Enter in useless discussion?

    Proverbs 9:6-7 Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding. He that reproveth a scorner getteth to himself shame: and he that rebuketh a wicked man getteth himself a blot.

    There are wonderful people in the World; we need to teach our children to be selective and careful when it comes to have friends.

  48. Andrea Hazbun

    Hello,
    what Perla says is very interesting. Of course society is telling you: if your children are with other children they will learn the ways of the children and act according to those rules. It never occurs to society to think: I don´t need this. Now that I think of it, it makes real sense. It is intelligent and humble.

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